The Grace Hopper Celebration is meant to unite women in tech. This year droves of men came looking for jobs.

  • TwilightVulpine@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Just because gender is a complicated matter, it doesn’t mean people can’t be dishonest about it. Trying to invalidate transgender people for the lies of male registrants intruding on women’s spaces is doubly shameful. Really, transphobic people love to put up a flimsy mocking pretense that they are a different gender to discredit trans people.

    Even entertaining this argument seems like a mistake, but trans and non-binary people are a small minority. It’s extremely unlikely that they would outnumber cisgender women.

    It’s sad to see this sort of two-faced transphobic talk taking starting to take root in Kbin and Lemmy. It’s bad enough how much of this happens in other places.

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      1 year ago

      I think it points out the fact that saying you are something does not mean you are that something. Anyone willing to lie (lots of people) can abuse this freedom to the detriment of the protected group. self id cannot be a thing if you want to exclude a certain group, because you have no basis to call them out, no matter what your hunch may be.

      • TwilightVulpine@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        When I talk of “transphobes trying to discredit trans people”, it’s about your kind of talk that I’m talking. Now you want to make it about trans people and their right of self-id, because cis men are being shitty. Entirely the wrong group of people.

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      It’s not clear from your comment. Are you also accusing the trans women at this conference of lying about their gender?

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        I am accusing the cisgender men at the conference of lying about their gender and I am accusing people in this thread of playing coy about the fact that is trivial for someone who 100% sees themselves as a man to tick F rather than M on a form if that will get them an advantage. Especially if they think being transgender happens on a whim.

        If they are transphobic, they even get to discredit actual trans people while they take advantage of an opportunity that wasn’t intended for them. It wouldn’t be the first time transphobic people pretend to be trans just to cause problems.

        You did read my comment, I hope. Do you truly believe there are more transgender women and non-binary people than cisgender women in tech, to the point they would outnumber them?

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          How do you distinguish between the people who genuinely identify as nonbinary and those who are dishonestly doing it?

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            1 year ago

            identify

            See the “problem” with the entire ordeal is this right there, self-identification will always be abusable by people who are willing to lie. There is no solution to that problem I can think of that doesn’t piss someone off hard.

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          I am accusing the cisgender men at the conference of lying about their gender

          Wait, this is confusing. Cisgender man would mean they identify as men. But if they were lying about their gender… are you accusing them of secretly being women?

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            I don’t see how you could misunderstand what I said. If that wasn’t clear enough, the part right after that clarifies your question plenty. At this point I think are trying to deliberately create confusion and start an argument.

            Oh yeah, and that Right-wing pfp is pretty telling too…

        • cricket97@lemmy.world
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          1 year ago

          What if they’re not transphobic but rather just taking advantage of the less competitive playing field cough cough

          • TwilightVulpine@lemmy.world
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            1 year ago

            Drop the cough and dogwhistles. This is not about trans people and whatever wildly overblown fearmongering you are itching to bring up.

            This is about men being smartasses.

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              If they’re amab and self identifying as nonbinary, they’d be transgender by definition.

            • cricket97@lemmy.world
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              It’s actually about how there is no ability for biological women to police their own spaces anymore.