It’s because we are social creatures who are not entirely in control of our schemas, or conceptualisations. We can’t just decide to have logical opinions and have it work instantly. There’s always a difficulty, and the difficulty scales with personal relevance and importance. When we aren’t in control, society decides how we define things like “man” and “woman”. And the internal sense demands that we be able to categorise ourselves as the preferred gender, to the standards of not just our ego but also our irrational id.

some philosophers would even argue that there’s no reality but social reality and both are one and the same.

Some politicians would argue that social reality is oppressive and must be replaced with social unreality - http://soulism.net/

This article may have some direct relevance to you: https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/so-you-found-out-youre-agender-because-you-don-t-understand-trans-people-886fdee6f178

That’s not what paragraph 9 is about.

What did you think of paragraph 9 in My article?

Me neither. I always post My own medium blog like it’s a MySpace post. You don’t see Me claiming it’s anything it isn’t.