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Cake day: July 15th, 2023

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  • Their circle of friends may not be like yours.

    I know plenty of people like what you are describing (always near at least one phone), but they are still impossible to reach quickly. Even when they expect a call, they can have their phone in Do Not Disturb mode. Or they ran out of battery, and didn’t think to turn it on after plugging it in. Most of the time I have no idea what the issue is.

    Also, he might live in an area with few options. Specially on short notice. Maybe the closest alternative with a somewhat similar style is far away, so even if you can get a reservation , not everybody will be able to get there before dinner time.

    Basically, when he says it’s hard for him, maybe just trust that he knows his life better than you do.



  • I spent a few minutes researching this, and I still have no idea what the problem is. Or any motivation to keep researching.

    Honestly, I might be part of the problem. I’m a white guy, and there are basically no black people in my life. I don’t see any in the streets, at work, at home or here. Especially here, I have no idea who anyone is.

    Basically, I have no reason to get involved. However, I don’t want to be part of the problem. So if you spoonfeed me information I can use to make life better for “the blackness” (I’m very confused about the terminology), I will happily read it and try to remember it.

    So don’t just tell me the solution, none of the TLDR makes any sense to me. Spend a few words on the problem.

    As far as I can tell, there’s basically two kinds of people:

    1 - People who just don’t care about other people in the Fediverse. They will not read any of this, there’s nothing you can write here that will change anything for them.

    2 - People who are trying to be nice, but don’t always succeed. They will listen to advice, but nothing will change by telling them to be nice, be less racist, or to listen to people even if they are black. That’s what they are already trying to do.










  • All good points. But since tipping is supporting this broken system, and not tipping seems to be worse, what do you suggest then?

    I could just not go out, sure. Just stay out of it. If enough people do that, this wil lead to less customers, more employers closing their business, more employers loosing the job they couldn’t afford to quit. I don’t see how that helps either.

    So I’m listening. What do you suggest?


  • I see what you mean, but I’m not the one fucking over the employees.

    On the short term you are right, but as long as customers keeps tipping, the system works well enough for nothing to change.

    The more people stops tipping, the closer we get to change.

    And I’m sorry that the change will hurt the employees, but it’s not my battle. And tipping does not support the employees battle, just this days income.

    Tell me another way I can support their battle, and I’ll listen.

    (I tip when the employees seems to rely on it, or if I feel extraordinarily well serviced.)