I visit family in other states and I get comments like “I can’t believe you are so thin.” For context I am a healthy weight and I eat what I consider a reasonable diet. I sit and smile while I watch them drink soda and eat pure sugar and salt. I don’t care about your life choices but don’t act surprised by someone that’s a normal weight.

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    You might not have an eating disorder but some people you know might. Many people with eating disorders don’t know that they have them or even convince themselves that they don’t even when provided obvious evidence that they do.

    Fat shaming just tells people they only matter if they’re thin, and doesn’t discriminate between healthy weightloss and eating disorders that could kill them. Fat shaming just makes the world less healthy because it encourages disordered eating and poor relationships with food.

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      22 days ago

      I think fat shaming doesn’t make anything better.

      However, offering health options is not fat shaming.

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        22 days ago

        You might think you’re “offering health options” but in reality it’s just unsolicited advice which no matter the subject is almost always unwelcome at best and counterproductive at worst.

        It’s like if I told you to backup your computer or run a virus scan on your computer. Yes it’s good advice for good maintenance tasks on any computer but you know just how likely those tasks are to fix whatever you’re dealing with on your computer at this moment, and if that’s advise you really needed you need much more information than is provided to actually meaningfully use the advice. If your unsolicited advise is only a sentence long, it’s too vague to be useful to someone who needs it and to anyone else it’s unhelpful and belittling to assume they don’t already know that.

        TL;DR “offering health options” is a form of fat shaming

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          22 days ago

          I’m not the one offering healthy options. It is more of a cultural thing to offer healthy items when possible. When I travel to some states it is hard to find fresh food.