Text translation: “I finish work at 6 pm today. I want the food to be warm when I get home. And don’t forget to put that movie I told you about on the USB, I want to watch it after getting in bed”.
Text from today. I’m expected to cook all of his meals, do his laundry, iron his clothes, do the grocery shopping, clean the house, run any errands he needs, etc. basically all of the housework, he won’t do anything even when he doesn’t go to work. I love him but it becomes mildly infuriating at times, especially when I have to sync my life with his schedule. At least he takes good care of me financially.
I guess if he puts out (as in he pays the bills) it’s worth it. Just keep your mental health in check and know this shit isn’t normal. If he wants to start charging rent or some bs then remind him you earn your keep by pampering his ass. Good luck to you!
Yeah, at this point it seems the arrangement is that he pays for her studies and lodging in return for doing all the housework.
Whether that’s a good deal or not is up to her. I can’t see it helping their relationship, but he doesn’t sound great in that department anyway.
Yeah if I change this in my head from “dad” to “shitty boss”, it’s still bad but it’s tolerable. You could certainly do a lot worse in the job department.
It shouldn’t be a job in the first place, and this adjustment requires losing a dad, so it’s horrible even in its best form, but it provides a path forward that isn’t a non-starter.